She was never one to raise her voice. In fact, she was the "calm one" — always careful with her words, always seeking peace and eager to be helpful. Yet, a few years into a verbal and emotionally abusive relationship, she noticed a shift. She found herself snapping, defensive and impatient; ready to throw back any hurtful words spoken to her. One day, after a particularly heated exchange, she sat alone wondering: "Who am I becoming? This isn’t me."

Over time, I’ve realized that there’s a crucial link between healing from your pain and articulating what caused it. Find your voice

This is what we call “suffering”! I want to acknowledge that your pain is valid and it’s not your fault.